Miscarriage, or early pregnancy loss (EPL), is more common than you think. It happens in about 15-20% of known pregnancies. That number is likely much higher because EPL often happens before a woman even knows she is pregnant. Even though miscarriage is so common, it’s not something that is talked about. There are a lot of misconceptions, myths, and shame around it.
One of the most harmful misconceptions about miscarriage is that it is rare and that, if it does happen, it was probably because of something the woman did. This is overwhelmingly untrue, and beliefs like these cause guilt, shame, and silence in the women and their partners who have experienced miscarriage. Have you ever thought about why it is common for women to not share the news of their pregnancy until after 12 weeks? It is because pregnancy loss is so common. That kind of advice is harmful, because it means that if a woman has a miscarriage and she hasn’t told those closest to her about the pregnancy to begin with, who will support her? When a woman miscarries, no matter how early, it is important to make sure she feels supported in navigating through her grief.
Another mistaken belief about miscarriage is that if you have had an abortion in the past, you are more likely to have a miscarriage in the future. This is also untrue. Having an abortion in the past is very unlikely to interfere with your ability to carry a healthy pregnancy to term in the future, and will not increase your risk for a miscarriage.
Concerned you might be having an early pregnancy loss? Make sure you see your doctor as soon as possible. If you have questions about treatment options for miscarriage in a supportive, pro-woman environment, give us a call. We can help you through this time.
For more information on how harmful these erroneous beliefs about miscarriage can be, read this great NPR article. If you have had a miscarriage, you are not alone. We see you, and support you.